Anonymous asked: Anonymous: Hi I am lesbian but I am having a hard time accepting myself, do you have any advice? Thank you!
Hi. I think what you need to tell yourself is that there is NOTHING wrong with you. You are not wrong and the way you love is not wrong, society is wrong. Society is wrong for conditioning us to think that heterosexuality is normal and that anything deviating from that is abnormal and thus not as good. Realize that your sexuality is simply a different shade of normalcy, but no less normal and no less RIGHT.
Don’t hate people. Don’t let your struggle to accept yourself and have other people accept you make you bitter and harsh. Know that when someone else cannot accept you (or your sexuality), it is likely that that person has a much harder time accepting things about themselves. Instead of feeling angry at the ignorant and cruel people feel pity for them, because they let themselves exist in a sad and very small box of possibilities.
Remind yourself of all the things you do like about yourself, whether it is something physical or something about your personality. Be grateful for parts of your body and your mind that you don’t always appreciate. For example, make an effort to be grateful for your legs not just because they look great in tight jeans but because they are strong and allow you to run and climb and dance. Be grateful for the things that are easy to like about yourself, but also the things that are less easy to like. Your awareness of being a lesbian means you are at a point in your life where you are aware of love and that you see a possibility of it in your future. You want to kiss girls, and you can be excited about that. You want to spend your life growing old with a woman, and that desire and knowledge is something to be thankful for.
We should always be thankful for all love of all kinds, whether we fall in love head first or if it sneaks up on us slowly. We should fall in love with someone not for their gender, not consciously and with a calculated choice, but because we reach a point where we simply find it impossible to NOT love that person. When you find a girl where you can’t help loving her any more than you can help breathing: you will know in your heart there is nothing wrong with it, and it’s exactly the way you are supposed to be.
You are you and it is right and it is more than good enough for the world. Good luck!